Leaving a Life Behind: The Moment I Realised I Was Lost
When I left my abusive husband of six years, I felt like a shell of myself, like I had locked the essence of me away in a treasure box deep within my body to protect it. But in doing so, I felt lost and uncertain of who I was or what I wanted.
Determined to rebuild my life and confidence, I booked an activity weekend in Wales. I remember that journey clearly—the roads were terrible, the rain hammering down, and it took hours to get there.
The Turning Point: Finding Strength on a Rainy Welsh Cliff
On the first day, we went rock climbing. Despite the rain and wind, we kept going. I was one of the last to try. There was a tricky section that many struggled with near the top, and quite a few in the group had given up on it.
Recognising and Challenging Self-Sabotaging Beliefs
Finally, it was my turn. I got to that difficult spot and began to struggle. My mind was taunting me, echoing the familiar voice I’d heard for years: "You can't even do this. You’re useless." But then, without thinking, I yelled into the wind, "YOU ARE NOT GOING TO STOP ME!" In my mind, I was yelling at my ex, reclaiming my strength. Suddenly, a surge of energy flooded me, and I scrambled to the top of the cliff.
The sense of empowerment was incredible. For the first time, I had noticed those self-doubts—the ones I thought were so powerful—and I’d said, "No, you’re wrong!" .
When I abseiled back down, people were joking, "Do you feel better for that?" Embarrassed, I laughed it off, realising they’d heard my yell. But that yell was exactly what I needed in that moment to overpower the beliefs that had held me back.
What I realised that day is that these inner voices and beliefs can feel overwhelmingly powerful and convincing—but they don’t have to control us.
The Power of EFT Tapping to Quiet Inner Criticism
Since then, I’ve learned through EFT tapping to not only recognise but truly understand what lies beneath these self-sabotaging beliefs. Tapping has shown me how to gradually neutralise them, transforming my thoughts and beliefs into something kinder and more supportive.
Rediscovering Yourself Beyond Motherhood
If you’re feeling like you’ve lost the essence of who you are—perhaps wrapped up in the identity of ‘mum’ to the point that you’ve forgotten who you are—remember, you’re not alone. I’d love to help you reconnect with that true self.
Ready to Find the Real You? Try an EFT Taster Session
If you're ready to quiet those critical voices and reconnect with your true self, I invite you to a free EFT taster session. We’ll talk through your personal challenges, and I’ll guide you through tapping on a small topic, so you can experience firsthand the shifts that are possible.
It’s absolutely possible to reconnect with who you are and live with confidence, and I would be honoured to help you take that first step.
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