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I benefit hugely from my 1-to-1 EFT sessions, as they help me work on deeper blocks and unhealed wounds. But I also benefit from tapping daily.


Why?

Because each day offers small clues to what’s still unresolved within us—things like difficult conversations, cravings we can’t seem to control, or procrastination that keeps us stuck. These are moments when our emotions might be trying to tell us something, yet we’re struggling to listen.


EFT tapping on a daily basis not only calms our nervous system but also helps us listen to what’s under the surface of these clues—our emotions, frustrations, or recurring thoughts.

My morning did not start well: my husband was in a lot of pain from his knee operation, and I was trying to keep our younger dog Bella out of his way. Meanwhile, my older dog, Max, wasn't interested in breakfast or walk and that’s really not like him. I just didn't have the usual resilience to cope with it all.


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I took Bella for a walk and although the leaves were beautiful, and the walk was good for me, I couldn't calm the jittery feeling and my mind was going round and round with the events of the morning.


How I Used EFT Tapping to Shift My Morning Mood

I saw a bench and decided to sit down and tap on all of it, I started with tapping on what had happened, I then acknowledged my fears and worries, and said I choose to find a new way forward.


As I tapped through the points I allowed myself to acknowledge the events and feelings fully. I noticed a churning in my stomach and tapped on that sensation, accepting it without judgement.


Uncovering Limiting Beliefs: “My Needs Don’t Matter”

I started focusing on the positive - I choose to be strong, but in doing that I noticed the yes but - feeling so tired, so I tapped on that too, I then transitioned into noticing some emotions, feeling cross, frustration that my week has been turned upside down, and then all of a sudden I realised the belief that was underneath all of this. “My needs don’t matter” I tapped on this for a bit and then remembered that on the way into the woods I saw a deer so close and it was stunning, so I tapped on "my needs DO matter", the universe sent me that gift of seeing the deer and I am grateful.


I was starting to be able to focus on the positive now that I had cleared the negative energy in me. I tapped on my needs do matter, choosing to enjoy this walk, and that felt really energising. I was then able to continue my walk and really be present and notice the beauty around me.



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This was all a natural process, I allowed it all to evolve, as things revealed themselves I tapped on it and as that cleared it showed what else needed healing.


Daily Tapping vs. 1-to-1 Sessions: What’s the Difference?

Daily tapping helps clear the outer layers of the metaphorical onion, while our 1-to-1 sessions dive into the heart of it, addressing the core beliefs that may be keeping you stuck.


Ready to explore how EFT tapping could support you too?

If you’ve ever felt that your needs are always last or that stress from everyday life just builds up, a free EFT taster session can help you find some release and clarity.


The session begins with a chat about your current struggles and how I can support you with those, I then explain EFT and we tap on something small so that you can experience a shift in perspective and understanding of how it works.


From there you can choose if you want to continue and book sessions with me to focus on the deeper underlying struggles.


If you are ready and focused on starting your healing journey then click below to book your free session and take a step toward healing and rediscovering yourself.






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Leaving a Life Behind: The Moment I Realised I Was Lost

When I left my abusive husband of six years, I felt like a shell of myself, like I had locked the essence of me away in a treasure box deep within my body to protect it. But in doing so, I felt lost and uncertain of who I was or what I wanted.

Determined to rebuild my life and confidence, I booked an activity weekend in Wales. I remember that journey clearly—the roads were terrible, the rain hammering down, and it took hours to get there.


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The Turning Point: Finding Strength on a Rainy Welsh Cliff

On the first day, we went rock climbing. Despite the rain and wind, we kept going. I was one of the last to try. There was a tricky section that many struggled with near the top, and quite a few in the group had given up on it.


Recognising and Challenging Self-Sabotaging Beliefs

Finally, it was my turn. I got to that difficult spot and began to struggle. My mind was taunting me, echoing the familiar voice I’d heard for years: "You can't even do this. You’re useless." But then, without thinking, I yelled into the wind, "YOU ARE NOT GOING TO STOP ME!" In my mind, I was yelling at my ex, reclaiming my strength. Suddenly, a surge of energy flooded me, and I scrambled to the top of the cliff.


The sense of empowerment was incredible. For the first time, I had noticed those self-doubts—the ones I thought were so powerful—and I’d said, "No, you’re wrong!" .

When I abseiled back down, people were joking, "Do you feel better for that?" Embarrassed, I laughed it off, realising they’d heard my yell. But that yell was exactly what I needed in that moment to overpower the beliefs that had held me back.

What I realised that day is that these inner voices and beliefs can feel overwhelmingly powerful and convincing—but they don’t have to control us.



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The Power of EFT Tapping to Quiet Inner Criticism

Since then, I’ve learned through EFT tapping to not only recognise but truly understand what lies beneath these self-sabotaging beliefs. Tapping has shown me how to gradually neutralise them, transforming my thoughts and beliefs into something kinder and more supportive.


Rediscovering Yourself Beyond Motherhood

If you’re feeling like you’ve lost the essence of who you are—perhaps wrapped up in the identity of ‘mum’ to the point that you’ve forgotten who you are—remember, you’re not alone. I’d love to help you reconnect with that true self.



Ready to Find the Real You? Try an EFT Taster Session

If you're ready to quiet those critical voices and reconnect with your true self, I invite you to a free EFT taster session. We’ll talk through your personal challenges, and I’ll guide you through tapping on a small topic, so you can experience firsthand the shifts that are possible.


It’s absolutely possible to reconnect with who you are and live with confidence, and I would be honoured to help you take that first step.






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Being a mum is an extremely challenging and rewarding role, but it can be even more complicated if you didn’t have a healthy relationship with your own mum. For many of us, those unresolved wounds carry over into our own experiences of motherhood, making us feel “not good enough.” That’s why I found Karyl McBride’s book, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? – Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, so helpful.


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It wasn’t until I was in my 40s that I first learned about narcissistic behaviours and traits, and when I did, it really opened my eyes. I finally understood how my mum’s way of being had shaped the beliefs I held about myself.


The Ten Stingers: When it’s All About Mother


The book outlines ten common relationship issues—McBride calls them “stingers”—that are often present between narcissistic mothers and their daughters. Some really resonated deeply for me.



It’s All About Mother


This really rang true for my experience. I remember distinctly the day I left my abusive husband. I went to the family home, and my mum said to me, “I am really upset, this is affecting me so deeply!” I remember thinking, But it didn’t even happen to you, Mum! This perfectly captures how narcissistic mothers often make everything about themselves.


Your Mother Can’t Deal with Her Own Feelings


I could also resonate with this—my mum only did one emotion—anger. She blamed everyone but herself, and as a result, I learned to push down my own emotions. I put on a big, bright smile for the outside world, but inside, I felt very sad. I couldn’t show it to Mum though. I remember one day when Mum and Dad went out for the evening, I bought a Chinese takeaway and a bottle of wine. I drank more and more, and by the time they got home, I was drunk and feeling ill. In that state, I finally told Mum how I felt. She appeared to be listening in that moment, but by the morning, nothing had changed. She really hadn’t heard me at all.


McBride also talks about the dynamics between other members of the family. My brother, for example, was treated like the golden child, because in my mums eyes, he was not a threat to her. I, however, was the scapegoat, the one blamed or put down.


The Impact of Narcissistic Parenting on Daughters


In part two, the book dives into the different behaviour patterns daughters adopt in adulthood as a result of their parenting. One of these patterns is being the High-Achieving Daughter—someone who tries so hard to prove her worth. McBride explains that this is often the daughter’s way of showing her mum, and the world, that she is worthy. Yet despite all their achievements, these daughters often feel that nothing they do is ever good enough.

I can certainly resonate with this. I’ve taken so many exams in my life, hoping that this time I would feel enough, that I would finally be seen as “clever enough.” But, as McBride points out, this sense of never being good enough often stays with us until we can confront and heal the underlying beliefs we formed in childhood.


There are so many insights in this section—I won’t spoil them all for you—but if this sounds familiar, I strongly recommend reading this part of the book.


Ending the Legacy of Narcissistic Parenting


Part three of the book talks about ending the legacy and offers specific recovery steps McBride recommends for daughters of narcissistic mothers. This is where the healing begins, and it’s also where I found EFT tapping to be an invaluable tool.


As mums, we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect, but perfection doesn’t exist. Yet, so many of us fail to recognise that we are doing a great job. More importantly, we don’t feel we deserve to take time for ourselves, which leads to guilt when we do try to prioritise self-care.


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How EFT Helped Me Heal


For me, EFT tapping has been a crucial part of healing these childhood wounds. The book helped me see how deeply these beliefs were ingrained, but tapping allowed me to address the emotional charge behind those pivotal moments. With EFT, I’ve been able to explore the beliefs I formed during those events—like “I’m unlovable”—and decide, from a calmer perspective, whether they are actually true. From there, I’ve been able to build new, empowering beliefs, like “I am a good human being deserving of love and kindness.”


Tapping has helped me to revisit and reframe significant moments from my childhood, where I made decisions about myself that were shaped by my mum’s narcissistic behaviour. The power of EFT is that it creates the space to process those moments, calm your nervous system, and rewrite the old beliefs that have been holding you back.


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Moving Forward


If you see parts of yourself in this book and feel the pull to do some deeper healing, I offer 1-to-1 EFT coaching sessions. Together, we can work on rewriting those old beliefs that are no longer serving you, so you can experience the emotional freedom you deserve.


Healing is possible, and Will I Ever Be Good Enough? offers an in-depth look into the lasting effects of narcissistic mothers. If you’re ready to take the next step in your healing journey, EFT can support you in breaking those old patterns and embracing your worth.






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