I was living our dream life. My two daughters were thriving at school, and I cherished being an integral part of their lives.
From supporting them backstage in school plays to cheering them on at netball matches and baking gingerbread houses before Christmas, I loved every moment of motherhood.
As they grew older, I treasured our learning to drive practice sessions, which gave us precious time to chat.
BUT, I hadn't prepared myself for the heartache that came when my eldest was preparing to go to university.
The thought of not seeing her every day, knowing she would lead an independent life, left me tearful and heartbroken. The impending change felt like an abrupt end to a beloved chapter of my life, and I felt redundant.
Coping with Empty Nest Syndrome
With both my daughters seeking independence and the empty nest fast approaching, I realised I had to confront the looming void. I had always put everyone else's needs first, but now, I faced the daunting question:
What was my purpose now?
My confidence plummeted, and I felt of little value to the world. This, coupled with perimenopausal symptoms, left me tearful and lost.
Finding New Purpose After Motherhood
One day, overwhelmed by these feelings, I decided enough was enough. I recognised that my emotional baggage and limiting beliefs were holding me back. I needed a change. I loved being in nature and supporting others, so I began exploring ways to combine these passions.
A few friends mentioned EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) tapping, which I initially dismissed as odd. But curiosity led me to take a short course on Udemy, followed by a 5-day in person practitioner course.
Something inside me knew this was the right step forward.
The Transformative Power of EFT Tapping
The course was transformative. I quickly realised that before I could help others, I needed to work on my own emotional rucksack. I sought support and gradually unpacked the past events that had held me back. As I healed, I felt ready to begin my business, confident in the power of EFT.
Now, I have choices. I can pause, reflect, and prioritise my needs. I feel a new sense of freedom and calm, with a future full of possibilities.
Preparing for Life Beyond the Empty Nest
To all the mothers out there, whether your children are still at home or preparing to leave the nest, I urge you to think about your future. What will you do when they become more independent? How can you begin to prepare yourself now?
You might already feel the weight of an emotional rucksack, affecting your happiness and appreciation for the present.
You may have tried many things and feel stuck, but there is a different way. You can choose how to live your life, rather than reacting to it.
I've created a Free Journaling workbook to help you understand what's happening in your life, identify what's working and what's not, and take baby steps toward where you want to be. It’s designed to help you turn things around and embrace a life of freedom and choice.
Let’s embark on this journey together. There is a fulfilling life beyond motherhood, and it starts with taking the first step.
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