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Katie Bowers

Awareness is the first step to change.

Today I noticed something about myself—I wasn’t really paying attention to what someone was saying. Instead of pausing and listening, I reacted based on a feeling in my body. I wasn’t responding from a place of clarity and calm.


Afterward, my inner critical voice started up: "See, you’ve done it again. Snapped again. Ignored them. No wonder you're struggling; you’re not giving them the time of day."



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So, I paused, sat down, and tapped. I acknowledged that this is where I am right now, and while I can’t change the past, I was grateful for this awareness.


This is a positive step towards truly exploring what’s going on within me. As I tapped, my nervous system calmed, the guilt and self-punishment began to ease, and I could start seeing the individual pieces that led to this moment.


With compassion, I was able to tap on the feeling that had surfaced when they were speaking to me. From this place of understanding and clarity, I realised I had choices.



A quote from Victor Frankl came to mind: "When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." This reminded me that I am responsible for my actions. What someone else does is their choice, but I can control how I respond. I have choices about how I see the situation, what I feel about it, and how I choose to behave.

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How Does Awareness Help You Break Unhealthy Patterns?


Awareness allows you to truly see your patterns—first this happens, I think this, I behave that way, and so on. From this perspective, you can recognise how it keeps happening, step by step. This gives you the opportunity to explore new choices. By changing just one of those steps, you can shift the entire direction.


This reminds me of the poem by Portia Nelson, "Autobiography in Five Chapters." The poem beautifully illustrates the gradual process of awareness, acceptance, and the choices we can make along the way.




What to Do When You Feel Resistance to Change


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If you’ve gained awareness of a situation but feel resistance to changing it—maybe your internal voice says, "They need to change," or "There’s nothing I can do"—tapping can help. It helps you explore the obstacles, fears, beliefs, and worries that are keeping you stuck. Remember, doing nothing is still a choice!


From awareness comes acceptance. Like in the poem, you accept that you’ve been falling into the same patterns. You acknowledge your current reality without judgment—it’s happened, and you can’t change it. But now, you have the power to choose what happens next. Whether you choose to do nothing or try something different, the choice is yours.


Reflection Exercise: How to Use Awareness to Transform Your Life


Think about a recent situation where you noticed a pattern repeating, perhaps a moment when you reacted without thinking. How did you feel in that moment? What thoughts came up for you? Could tapping help you next time to pause and respond from a place of clarity?


A Simple Step Forward: Pausing and Tapping


Next time you catch yourself reacting instead of responding, take a moment to pause. Ask yourself, What’s really going on for me right now? If you’re able, take a few minutes to tap through what comes up. This can help you calm your nervous system and see the situation with more clarity. Even just one or two rounds of tapping can make a difference.


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